Thursday, December 1, 2016

SRS guide

I received an email the other day, asking that I post this Guide to Sexual Reassignment Surgery on this page, and rather than explain that I really didn't post anything on Trans Honey anymore, I figured I'd read it over, and it seemed worthwhile, I'd go ahead and post it. So I did, and it did, so here is a link to an SRS Guide, for those who want to read it.

otherwise, for what it's worth, about 50 people a day still visit this site (which strikes me as odd since it never changes.....). I'm doing OK.  I've legally changed my name and my gender marker and am going through some struggles, but I'm healthy and relatively sane, and I have a job and am in school again (finishing up in a couple weeks-yeah!!!!!!), so things are basically OK

I tell some folks the same advice I tell myself sometimes  "get to a place that's safe and stay there".  For some people that place includes surgery, and hopefully this is of some little help on your  journey to a safe place.

Sunday, November 9, 2014

on a whim I checked this blog (actually I was checking my mega million ticket and got exactly zero numbers right) but after that I checked what all comes up if I type in my drag name and I got this old blog of mine and see that there's still 50 -90 hits per day, so I wonder if if there'd be any interest in resuming posting to TransHoney-because  other than that for whatever reason a few people still go to this site, I really don't know anything about you or your interests or anything  -so if a few people comment (keep it clean if course)  that they'd like to see some current posts on Transformative Honeymoons I'd go ahead and revive it, if no one comments then I wont bother of course,

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Hey - I can't believe this blog is still around - i haven't posted here in like a year,
but I'm looking for an old cycle of Poems I wrote (Drag #1 through drag #8) and it's on my computer somewhere but I can't find it -so I thought I'd try Trans Honey

I'm really very happy these days - I live and work as a woman -I'm very busy I'm starting a band , and
people really like my harmonica playing and no one seems to care that I'm trans - I do drag rarely in St Paul
but my band is a real band -we're payed to be musicians -I'm dating a very nice woman who's pretty amazing in a lot of ways - I have a certain admiration for her really - I am really, really busy these days -
but Im happy -it's weird waking up every day, putting on my make up and going about my life as a basically normal person :)   Stacy Wilderness

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

OK this is my vaguely political post.
I really don't do this that often.........

[Note - starting June, 2012 I am entering a worker retraining program,
I will be presenting myself as a trans woman and entering the workforce
as a woman, or at least as person presenting myself as a woman (not
being on hormones I won't be changing my gender marker).  I decided to
start a new blog about my experience, and if you are interested in
reading my transition blog, here's the link:

otherwise I'll return you to the final post of Transformative Honeymoons: ]

OK this is my vaguely political post.

One year ago Osama Bin Laden was taken down, and I of course
did a caption, which is still pretty funny, I think so to I reposted that
as a counter balance to this bit of Obama political gamesmanship
to show the moderates that he's not a liberal, whatever....

“It was weak, it was shallow, it was unpersuasive,” said Almeida of White House 
arguments made against signing the order, 

No one really expects anything but idiocy from either party any more, 
but in America, things are OK if not great, and this is a way cool video
which is really a lot more of what the rest of America is like if you actually
 go out and try walking around in drag sometime -this is pretty cool, sorry
about the commercial at the start of it:

"This is America, mind your business" doesn't that seem a lot more patriotic than
the Obama message : I'm too chicken to support you, but you should support me

Anyways I'll get dressed up for therapy Friday but I'm not going to same day
post every time I dress up anymore -I won't be dressed Sunday because I got
the gig right after, next week sometime, I'll post. Until then,

Take Care


Postscript - I decided to cancel my appointment with my psychologist
I really can't afford it right now, and really it isn't helping with the
economic issues and the need to lose weight that are really my two
main concerns right now -it just doesn't fill a need any more -I have
made very many trans and gay friends, and when I want to talk there
are people I can call or go over and see or I can go to group, or go to
my gay church -I mean there are a lot of people I can turn to, and I just
really don't see the formal psychological approaches as being helpful in
real life where everyone who is trans is struggling and everyone who
is trans who is struggling is getting by by building a network of other
trans friends and supporters who can help you through and the
psychologists just seem really irrelevant to this survival process
(when I find a job I'll resume therapy, but right now I can't afford
it and don't see it as essential -the social network you build is essential
to your survival as a trans person)

this blog was fun. but really, I'm moving on, I may start a transitioning
blog at some point but right now I need to focus on finding a job that
will permit me to dress as a woman in my private life, and in losing
another 50 pounds  and you all really don't  want to hear about my
job hunt and struggle to lose weight so this is my final post
at Transformative Honeymoons.

Stacy Wilderness

Post Blog Log

May 9th -Job Fair and walked 3mi around a lake

****May 9th 2012 -the President of the USA publicly
        supports same-sex marriage -very Presidential! *****

May 11th -first interview for training program -went dressed up to
              to an interview for the first time and it went extremely well

May 13th -went to church and played an outdoor gig in boy mode,
                a transwoman ex-pastor gave an amazing sermon, gig went
                well - went home changed into my gold dress and went to see
                the Amen Corner at the Guthrie with a transwoman friend

May 14th -scheduled 2nd interview for training program tomorrow also
                set up another interview for Wednesday, but if this comes thru
                 even though it's unpaid training, because I'll be going dressed as
                 a woman, I'll cancel the interview for the paid position that I'd
                 have to work dressed as a man
                 deleted the phone number of the guy I went on the date with,
                  he never asked me out on a second date -oh well, with the interview
                  I would have rescheduled anyways -one little kiss (sigh)

May 15th -I put on my makeup and my favorite skirt and drove to the facility
                 and signed the forms,  so I'm in the program -I'm not sure what
                 bathroom I'll use, but they know I'm going dressed as a woman
                 -it starts at the end of  the month for the first 60hr segment, so I
                  called and cancelled the interview for the sales job that I'd have to
                  move and would never be able to transition on -the lady on the
                 phone probably thought I was crazy when I said why!
                 seriously moving being alone starting over hiding again -it would
                 be so unbelievably difficult to go through all that right now
                 regardless of whatever the pay was -it would be so, so difficult
                 I'm setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist, just to
                 make sure I'm not crazy (well obviously I'm crazy, but you know
                 what I mean) and I'll go out with a trans woman friend to a
                 blues bar and play my harp, assuming she's up to going out

May 16th - dressed up for group

May 17th -Sold two junker cars so I have a little cash for a change -took my
                  dog to the vet for her spaying , mowed the lawn, two beers and
                  I was out like a light.  A decent day for being in boy mode all day

May 18th - in boy mode again - my dogs surgery went well, I'm not planning on
                  dressing up and going out -but I am going to send an email to everyone
                   in my band today telling them that I will be attending classes as a

I am starting a new blog called "Who's the new girl?"
here's the link if you are interested

It seemed like a really good point to put this blog to an end,
and I will no longer be posting material here so this is
the end of Transformative Honeymoons, and in a few days my
real life experience begins.

Monday, April 30, 2012

I went on a date this afternoon.  I t was really very nice.  We talked and
spent a couple hours walking through a zoo and garden.  I had a good time.
 I'm pretty sure he likes me and thinks I'm pretty. He's going to call me
and ask me out again, and of course I will go with him -he's very nice.

Sunday, April 29, 2012

so that would be me, this morning, and this would be a video of  my crazy dog:

this would be the puppy I had before (several years ago) -she was such a good 
girl that we got another of the same breed and they are nothing like each other
(that would be me on the harmonica -but I am so much better now that I'm
like oh my, that was a long time ago)

so OK where to begin, the date was a disaster obviously -it's like a running gag
now -He had a headache, he emailed me later though feeling better, but I was at
rally etc so we never did get together -but I had a good day so if he wants to
try again that's cool, but he's really got to be more serious about it if he tries
to set up a second date -considering how very patient I was this time.

A couple other guys have also emailed me about formal dates - pick me up,
take me some place nice, etc real dates to impress me, and I have to admit
it's kind of working, I mean I walk out of the house in my dress, get in a guy's
car, go to a nice resteraunt, seriously -it's kind of exciting and I don't want
to take advantage of someone and have them blow a couple hundred bucks
on me, but then again, I am pretty, genuinely a nice person, very intelligent, healthy
(other than being kind of fat), college educated, and really pretty sane -which
is rare in any woman, but especially transwomen (and stop laughing,
I am a very sane person -I just live a very weird life) -but I stop to think about
it and why wouldn't a nice guy looking for a nice transwoman be interested
in me?

So back to todays narrative - Church service was good, and I stopped 
downstairs and told several people about my bands gig next Sunday
then I'm walking back to my truck parked on the street a couple hundred
feet from the church, so I'm getting in the truck and and the guy parked
in the car behind me pulls up, I roll down the window, and we chat a bit
he asks where I'm going next, I'm just hanging out, you want to go hang
out at  Como Park, etc... so he get's in my truck and we're gonna go over 
to a park in St Paul.  Let me pause the story for a second -people at my 
church park on the street across from the church (where I park and where
he parked) and so I just assumed that because he was getting in his car
and pulling away, just as I was, that he'd been in church and was looking
for someone to chat with and spend some time with after church - that
was a really bad assumption - turns out he'd seen me walking to my truck
and was trying to, well proposition me  to have sex with him, and of course
I'm like I wouldn't have sex outside of a relationship and that got him
running from my truck faster than if I'd used tear gas on him

So I go over to the cafe, to talk about the gig on Sunday, and I tell this story to
a transwoman friend I know when I get there, and I'm laughing and
blushing as I tell the story,  anyways we were going to talk but a friend I'm 
kind of worried about called and we chatted for a good bit, then I go back
in and my friend at the cafe is leaving but she tells me about an event going
on in Burnsville ( to defeat the one man/one woman marriage bill) 
so I talk to someone about the gig, then wind up in Burnsville-
the event was pretty cool and and everyone was smiling and welcoming
and obviously I totally support the idea of same sex people being able to
marry, so I hooked up with someone there and I'm going to try and
get involved in that

then I was still trying to make the date happen (you remember the date 
that started this whole chain of events) so I wanted to meet at the 90's at 9
it was too late, how about the mall of america at 7? I never heard back
but I wanted to go so I went anyways and wound up in a store playing with
the toys and talking to a guy for about 45 minutes, then it was closing time,
so I went home 

So like I say my dating experience is a running gag now, but it really was kind of
a fun day, so I get home, video crazy dog, take off my dress and stuff and go back
in boy mode (which kind of sucks) write this block and next I'll walk my dog
and call it a night.

Seriously I am going to get dressed up and go on a date with a guy -
it is really going to happen, seriously,  this is getting absurd

my life sucks
anyways I'm two minutes from walking out the door, after taking a
couple pictures of myself all dolled up, and I get a message that
he's not going to make it -he's not feeling well, but maybe we can
go out this evening, so I email back:

OK, thanks for letting me know
I'm all dolled up all ready
(as you can see)  so I'll go to church and
head to [well I'm not going to tell you]  anyways. I'll probably be
back in boy mode this evening -walking the dog,
sending out resumes, stuff like that.
So let's try again, maybe next weekend

Dang... I actually felt pretty today too


well I suppose I'm off to church